Just as Batman had Robin, every good Super hero had some kind of sidekick. That sidekick is every bit as important in the fight against evil as the actual Super Hero.
So to must it be with those of us with Parkinson’s and our sidekick, that valuable person in our relationship,…. The Caregiver.
Normally for most of us that person, our caregiver, is our spouse.
In all honesty they are probably going through more anguish than we are. They are witnessing the person that they love, falter in front of them.
We sometimes focus so much on our own daily struggles, that we do not recognize, what they themselves are going through.
We must, we should, communicate with them , not only in how we are coping but how they are coping.
I know I have failed in some way in doing this. Sometimes it may be because what I feel is not something that I want to burden them with. However, what I don’t say or do, can be an unwanted burden on them. They are not blind, and in my case, they are not stupid.
They are aware of what we are feeling. After all they have been a part of us for many years now.
They not only take on more responsibilities in their own lives but must have a more daily impact on ours as well.
We must reward them with our best fight, our best effort. Make the most out of our day so that we may allow them to get something out of their day.
The caregiver, should be a part of not only what is bad about our day , but what is good about our day.
They deserve our best, as we expect their best in helping us.
I am blessed, to have someone that has been by my side for 35 years, We live where we work , we work where we live, we raised our three children in this environment, We have seldom been apart during that time.
I owe it to her to be more communicative.
I owe it to her to put up a good fight.
I owe it to her to make her days during this battle as good as I possibly can.
So to those days when I feel like I can’t do something, I must try, not only for me but for her.
It is the least I can do for my Caregiver…… My sidekick!